My Dad is Shy – Is a Residential Care Home a Good Choice?

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Chaos in the apartment, moldy food is standing around and the refrigerator has been empty for weeks. If older people can no longer manage their lives independently, accommodation in a home is a sensible solution. But those affected rarely want to give up their familiar four walls or their independence. The discussion and decision about a move and the type of accommodation should always be made together with your parent.

When is the Right Time for Someone to Move to a Care Home?

Preferably, we want to grow old independently and yet remain well cared for. But as soon as “living in old age” takes on a concrete form, most people only think of nursing homes or other hospital-like facilities. Today, however, there is a multitude of possibilities to put one’s own life in the foreground and to shape one’s twilight years in a completely individual way.

Moving into a residential care home is a big step; however, it’s not the only one. For some people, a care home isn’t the right place for them as they are still independent and their mental health and physical needs are less. Other options may be available, so research all the options available before making a decision.

“Moving into a care home or nursing home is a huge physical and emotional adjustment. The decision to move into a home is often taken reluctantly. It can be traumatic for the person moving into the home as well as for a partner, close family, or friends left behind. Making plans early and getting the information and advice you need will help make any changes much easier and less stressful.” Agespace

How To Talk To Your Parents About Care Options

It’s a difficult situation when your parents need increasingly more help with everyday life. You now face tricky questions.

  • Can I bring up the subject without being off-putting?
  • How do I find out how much help is needed?
  • What do my parents want?
  • How can more support be organized?

No one likes to admit when something is no longer working well or help is needed — not to themselves and certainly not to others. That’s one reason why people sometimes disagree, don’t want to accept that they actually need support, and refuse any help. 

“Like choosing any home, choosing a care home is a big decision. People often find themselves doing this in a hurry when there’s a health crisis, but it’s a good idea to think about what you’d like sooner rather than later and discuss this with your family or friends.” Independent Age

Why You Should Stop Feeling Guilty About a Move to a Care Home

Residential care homes shouldn’t be a taboo subject. They allow Seniors to live independently in their own apartments. They are located within a residential neighborhood but offer access to additional services as needed. This includes care from outpatient nursing services, provision of meals, recreation, and much more.

You’re all adults. So talk openly and honestly with each other.

  • Proceed step by step.
  • Seek advice early.
  • Ask those “what-if” questions.
  • Draw up powers of attorney together.
  • Take everyone’s wishes and needs seriously.

“Guilt and grief are among the most challenging feelings caregivers must face when transitioning from home to a care facility. Know that these are normal reactions that originate in the love and care you feel for your loved one.” Alzheimer’s Association